Finding the Balance
Discovering the ‘You’ Beyond Motherhood
Hey Moms!
Motherhood changes you—no surprise there. From sleepless nights to that first cup of your energy of choice in the morning feeling like a lifeline, life shifts dramatically. But there’s a less obvious transformation too: the one where you start questioning who you are beyond the diapers, snacks, and errands/daycare/school runs.
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, especially when you become a mom. It’s like being handed a new script each day. Just when you think you’ve got your lines down, the story shifts. There are surprise plot twists, unscripted meltdowns, and our favorite unexpected joydrops. Through it all, one question often lingers: Who am I now?
You might have been the one who thrived on spontaneous road trips or spent your days climbing the career ladder. Now, you’re someone’s everything, and while that’s beautiful, it can also feel overwhelming. The person you were before? She’s still there. She’s just evolving.
It’s okay to admit that sometimes you miss her. It’s also okay to love the version of you that’s grown in her place. Being a mom isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about uncovering new parts of yourself you didn’t know were there.
So, how do you find the balance? How do you hold onto the ‘you’ that existed before kids, while embracing the ‘you’ that’s grown since?
Here are a few ideas:
Give Yourself Permission to Be More Than a Mom
Your kids are important, no doubt. But so are you. It’s easy to get wrapped up in their needs, their schedules, and their lives. But take a moment each day to ask yourself: what do I need today? And no, it’s not selfish. You can’t take care of everyone else if you don’t take care of yourself too.
Stay Connected to Your Passions
Remember the things you loved before kids? Whether it’s painting, running, or binge-watching a favorite show—make space for it. You may not have as much time, but even a few minutes here and there can remind you of the ‘you’ that still exists beneath the daily chaos.
Find Your People
Whether in person or online, finding a community that gets it is gold. Moms who understand the highs and the lows, the mess and the magic. That’s why The Other Moms exists—to be that supportive, relatable space where we all figure it out together. It’s always better when you’re not alone on the journey.
Embrace the Evolution
Let go of the idea that you have to be the same person you were before kids. Motherhood is an evolution. You’re not losing yourself—you’re expanding into someone even more multifaceted. Some days it might feel like you’re just winging it (and let’s be honest, aren’t we all?), but that’s part of the growth.
So, here’s to us, Moms. To rediscovering the pieces of ourselves that make us feel whole while embracing the new layers we’re building every day. We’re not just raising kids—we’re raising ourselves too.
And that’s something worth celebrating.
- The Other Moms
